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Orgasmic Control

Whilst one can use drugs to sustain an erection, some people might have side effects such as dizziness; flushing; headache; heartburn; stuffy or runny nose; upset stomach. In severe cases, one can have allergic reactions (rash; hives; itching; difficulty breathing; tightness in the chest; swelling of the mouth, face, lips, or tongue); back or muscle pain; chest pain; fainting; fast, slow, or irregular heartbeat; memory loss; prolonged, painful erection; ringing in the ears; severe or persistent dizziness; severe or persistent vision changes or vision loss; sudden hearing loss.

Rather than have a drug dependency for firmness of erection, a man might consider learning orgasm control to manage the physical stimulation and sensation connected with the emotional and physiologic excitement levels. This is most effectively practiced first by self masturbation, then by partnered non-simultaneous mutual masturbation. With mutual agreement, either partner can similarly learn to control or enhance their partners orgasmic response and timing. Practiced orgasm control can improve male or female orgasm experience and can improve male ejaculation.

Practiced mindful orgasmic control techniques can help learning, enhancing, and extending our body’s natural limbic system orgasmic response. The practice of orgasm control applies to female and male masturbation and any gender partnered combinations. Practiced orgasm control improves learned and natural orgasmic response in most sexual interactions.

Dr. Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching. She is a certified sexologist with a Doctorate in Human Sexuality. She provides sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conducts sexual education workshops and speaks at public events. For more, visit or email